You mentioned anger. I've found one of the hardest things to do as a male in his mid 40s is resist the anger that arises in response to nearly everything unexpected, unintended or challenging to my thinking. I never was an angry person, but somewhere around 43 I noticed my first reaction to many things was anger. It is a very blinding, unproductive emotion.
I have noticed something similar and I'm "just" 35. I think the best way to explain it is that I don't usually get angry, so when I do, I don't have much practice and the emotion tends to linger. The problem is not with anger per se, but with violence and loss of thinking. You should practice being angry and expressing it, I think. State your anger, explain what's wrong and tell people you don't want to stand for it. There is a difference between being an angry asshole and just being angry.
I had an anger problem as well. It did great damage in my life and to the lives of people I loved and still love.
For me it was helpful to get therapy for a few years from a “No More Mr. Nice Guy” therapist. You can search for information on Nice Guy syndrome & Dr. Robert Glover.
I’m definitely not saying that this is your issue. I’m only saying you might want to check it out.
I'm going to say something not to be flippant, but in the spirit of being helpful, and I'm being genuine in my question: Have you considered seeing a therapist?
