"Nobody is a prophet in their own land", is another thing that comes to mind.
Why did we evolve this way? I can't think of obvious reasons. I understand the phenomenon and I've seen it in close families (people that are capable of respecting others, are not respectful to their own blood family members).
There are lots of counterexamples: we are familiar with plenty that we do not regard with contempt.
For instance, ice cream, the fresh blue sky and panda bears.
I would revise that as "gradual discovery of the full extent of the contemptible traits of something is predictably associated with a rise in contempt".
Yes, this is what i have learned. Doing this with my partner. We both are aware, and trying hard. I joke and call it ego hacking. In my professional life i developed a very unique approach, i try to remain authentic, and show alot of understanding when people mess up. Sort of leading by example. Some friends say i let things go, that they would sue over.
And well, from my underatanding? Its the result of sentience - every sensing organ we have is connected to that big brain, and the systems compete for decision making. Negative tends to win since it proved protective thus far.
And addendum, we also evolved the ability to see pur own bullshit, but are sort of struggling with mastering it (called it religion, we allow it to get corrupted by power, etc) - but i can say for sure that meditation works.
Maybe if you are aware of it, you can control it?
"Nobody is a prophet in their own land", is another thing that comes to mind.
Why did we evolve this way? I can't think of obvious reasons. I understand the phenomenon and I've seen it in close families (people that are capable of respecting others, are not respectful to their own blood family members).