Yeah, fair enough. I'm sure your European friends wouldn't have stuck around if there was nothing in it for them. And I'm sure the women you met through your European friends also would not have stuck around if there was nothing it it for them.

I'm a big believer in free will. The idea of moral absolutes have always seemed quite odd to me. In my experience the world is very rarely black and white, usually more shades of grey. Only those who can't handle the complexity introduced by ambiguity seem to need moral absolutes.