> I still drink sparingly and am not sure that makes me an authority.
Don't worry, there are a number of ex-problem drinkers that can and do practice moderation. Some can, some can't. Some need abstinence, some don't. Your experience is not abnormal.
I've skirted around alcoholism in my past, but once I recognised why I was drinking and asked myself why I was drinking I realised I could drink but as long as I didn't 'need' it.
Don't worry, there are a number of ex-problem drinkers that can and do practice moderation. Some can, some can't. Some need abstinence, some don't. Your experience is not abnormal.