Cheer up - Paul Grahams worldview isn't the only one out there.
Do some reading on 'mISV' companies. Google Bob Walsh, Erik Sink, Rob Walling, Andy Brice and Patrick McKenzie - all of whom have written excellent material about building viable, bootstrapped, part-time software businesses.
Also, see this excellent talk by DHH on alternatives to the classical 'balls out, big risk/reward' startup scenario:
Do some reading on 'mISV' companies. Google Bob Walsh, Erik Sink, Rob Walling, Andy Brice and Patrick McKenzie - all of whom have written excellent material about building viable, bootstrapped, part-time software businesses.
Also, see this excellent talk by DHH on alternatives to the classical 'balls out, big risk/reward' startup scenario:
http://www.omnisio.com/startupschool08/david-heinemeier-hans...
Good luck!
(I'm in the same boat; currently only a few weeks from launching my first product.)