It saddens me that despite making a confession and making myself vulnerable to a wider audience, I am downvoted and flagged to hell. I won’t be discussing this any further.
I personally appreciated your comment. I'd guess that enough people flagged it to get moderator attention, but I'm guessing it was a small number. If so, I think this reflects a strong negative preference of a few.
One guess would be that the word 'torture' triggers people, even when it has nothing to do with error-prone medieval-style confession optimization.
But anyway, I think your take-away makes sense. Different venues offer different kinds of community and support (or brow-beating). Hopefully you find other places for that -- or, if this is a big enough problem for you and you have constructive ideas, write 'em up.
