We had felt invulnerable until we weren’t. I’m sorry about your friend’s mom it’s vile and even more infuriating that there’s no clear “villain”. But you reach a point where you focus on what you have. Good doctors, admirable and compassionate nurses , loving and supportive family. The money is toilet paper really – we conceded that a long time ago. Make the most of it while you can but you can’t hold onto too tightly.