Two people don’t make a conspiracy. And honestly, the tone came off as pretty snide. Quoting part of the post just to twist it into their own point was clearly deliberate.
I've worked in a technical support forum with usually great guys, but what happened there was that specific complaints and specific users became designated the enemy of the group, by the group. Everything in contact with the specific issues or the specific users became twisted beyond recognition, and the group reacted to it always with aggressiveness. The "problem users" usually left after some time, then the group magically choose the next victim.
From the outside, such a group mechanism is happening here. Your reaction to the issue being brought up is not rational, and from the outside not understandable. Even if it was brought up 18 month before in the same way. And no, the curl post does not match your hostility. And no, the tone did not came off as "pretty snide", even if tribal voting pattern greys out your opposition anyway.
Please reconsider your approach here. If the issue is not fixable in caddy (though Apache seems to handle it fine?) maybe formulate a standard response that says something like "sorry, this is complicated, see the curl explication here" and leave it at that. Have an action plan that recognizes group dynamics and the burnout symptoms existing in the project, as mentioned in the article.
