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Purely linguistic question here. What is the word for having a sexual fantasy about someone? Since this must happen a lot, I'm wondering if all languages have a single (transitive?) verb for it. If not, then why not?


I think this https://www.thesaurus.com/browse/covet is what you're looking for. It's even in the ten commandments - as mentioned on the page.


I have always thought that covet means strongly desire ( which the link also mentions ). Nothing about sexual fantasy.


It does, it essentially means to desire taking from someone, as in 'covet your neighbour's calf'


Do you mean "have" as in to possess a thing or to experience a thing? If someone possesses a fantasy or desire for someone it is common to say that they "lust after" that person. A person may lust after a supermodel, but that is different than a reference to that person experiencing a specific daydream about that supermodel. So it might all depend on tense.

Metaphor is also common in this area where direct description many be impolite. A person can be smitten or enchanted by someone. Or they can carry a candle.


To fancy or to daydream about someone. If English has a term for intense or explicit sexual fantasies, it’s a modern or clinical word.


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Thanks, but it doesn't come really close to the meaning I was looking for.

I find it difficult to believe that we don't have a good word for what 99+% of people are doing since puberty and allows also to express the object of the fantasy using a simple subject+verb+object type of sentence.


In my experience, modern English adopts idioms more often than new words. "Sexual fantasy" is a common term for what you're asking about. It may sound too dry and basic to be an idiom, but remember that English is packed, filled, stuffed, and choked with synonyms. That most people say "sexual fantasy" points to it being an idiom. "Dirty thoughts" would be a close contender.

If you really want a single verb, "lust."

For sexual fantasies about somebody one's looking at, "undressing with one's eyes."


Since sexual themes are heavily regulated or prohibited in most cultures, such a word may fail to exist, or to survive intact through the millennia. I suppose that local metaphoric and slang words, and contextually-altered expressions (like the generic "daydream" narrowed to that sense) replace it in many / most cases.

Same with words for copulation (highly restricted) and even for wooing / courting, which are also pretty universal activities since times immemorial.


Yes, it doesn't, but that's your answer because there is no single, exclusive English word for sexually desiring someone. So there can't really be one that exclusively refers to sexually fantasizing about them, at least, not until the age of extensive psychological and sociological taxonomies.

My response to your finding it difficult to believe is: you're asking for a word for an intensely private act! Think about how rarely people overtly and bluntly say they are sexually fantasizing about someone. When it's actually admitted to, it's done using a variety of metaphors, slang and indirect hints.

And in general, we don't have a commonly used prefix or second compounded word to turn a physical act into a fantasy. Even though "fuck" predates Early Modern there was nothing commonly attached to it to make it mental.


The two most common off my head: Colloquially, and somewhat innocently, "crushed [on]". Modern internet "Urban" colloquially, and certainly degeneratively, "fapped [to]".

Lots of modern variations abound. "squished [on]" when more romantically/asexually. Couples (usually strictly monogamous) may allow each other a "hall pass", which is a noun for someone that is an (often unattainable) sexual fantasy. ("He is my hall pass.")

I think languages in general pick up a lot of nuanced terms for these kinds of things, far more than just a single transitive verb. Especially because things like sexual interest are often "forbidden" from discussion in "polite society", so a lot of it starts as euphemisms or analogies and maybe never leaves. "Hall pass" is a euphemism from childhood school days that seems to have stuck for a very specific niche.

You can find a lot of variation in places like Urban Dictionary. It can be fun to try to find old slang dictionaries from previous eras to see how much things have shifted over time. (Euphemisms tend to, especially as jobs or technologies shift out from whatever is being euphemized.)


It isn't socially useful for this evident fact to be easily discussed.


In humor, everything can be discussed ;)


Fantasize?


Probably about a hundred different words for that in urbandictionary




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