Not a silver bullet for every project but the Django ORM largely solves this with its migrations. You define your table classes and it just generates the migrations.
Throw in a type checker and you're in pretty good shape.
Rust also has sqlx which will type check your code against the DB.
I'm assuming this is why you say it's not a silver bullet, but to make it more explicit: the Django ORM will happily generate migrations that will lock crucial tables for long amounts of time and bring down your production application in the process.
You still need to know what SQL the migration will run (take a look at `manage.py sqlmigrate`) and most importantly how your database will apply it.
Dealing with a bunch of automigrate headaches in the Prisma ORM convinced me to just drop the layer entirely and write plain old SQL everywhere. It’s forced me to learn a bunch of new stuff, but the app runs faster now that I can optimize every query and migrations are much simpler with a single idempotent SQL setup script I can run to provision whatever deployment of the DB I need. I’m sure some problem spaces might benefit from all the additional complexity and abstraction, but the average app certainly can make do without for a long time.
I also switched to plain SQL migrations and queries because I find it much simpler. I hear this a lot, that ORMs are easier/quicker to use, but I've found that writing plain SQL has almost no friction for me. I mean, learning at least basic SQL is part of the first year in most CS degrees.
There are some things that are really annoying in raw SQL and that are much easier with ORMs. Dynamic queries are one of those, if you don't want to concatenate SQL strings yourself you need at least a query builder at that point. The other part is updating/creating entities with many relations, that gets very tedious quickly and is somethings ORMs can handle for you.
It depends a lot on the specific application, for me those things are so common that I prefer to use an ORM even though I could write the SQL myself. ORMs are easier to use, but you still need to learn what they do under the hood and understand them or you will run into issues along the way.
I’m not suggesting anyone implement the raw binary protocol themselves! The postgres connection library you’re using should be able to handle dynamic queries perfectly fine.
An ORM is NEVER the solution, ever ever ever. Repeat after me: ORMs are not the solution to this problem. They work in your little toy apps with 4 customers but they are nothing but pain on real enterprise grade software.
Throw in a type checker and you're in pretty good shape.
Rust also has sqlx which will type check your code against the DB.