You're right to a degree, but maybe try a bit more charm. People don't have to respond according to your strictures. :)

We're social creatures. Talking is a necessary and very influential part of doing, especially if you want more than one person to do it. The pen is mightier than the sword.

I think that if you are really doing well, people will seek to emulate your example.

Charm amplifies whatever effect -- for good or for ill. It bypasses what passes for the blood-brain barrier and infects. My father is (or was, I am unsure if he is still alive) a tremendously charming individual. It was certainly handy when it came to talking his way out of arrests and charges, influencing people out of money, and so forth. Charm allows for an outsized influence on people, regardless of the wisdom (or lack thereof) in the approach.

In business, I have seen the charming destroy departments, stunt otherwise healthy careers, and walk a company off of a cliff. Ah, but they smiled while they did it! And that's what counts, I guess.