"but we can sometimes control the amount of desire we have by avoiding triggers that remind us"
That is true, but a sad conclusion. I don't believe, that there are many people who truly want to be alone all the time. Most just rather be alone, than with mean idiots, who will hurt them again.
But avoiding other people and situations to not be reminded how alone you are, will also never allow you to be in a position, where you can indeed open up and connect to the right people.
This is a really magical feeling. Being connected to people who you like, where you just feel welcome and don't have the feeling to be on your guard all the time. There is a reason many people are obsessed with party and drugs as this will get them this feeling temporarily. But I want that feeling everyday and without drugs. But the daily grind makes it an exception.
> This is a really magical feeling. Being connected to people who you like, where you just feel welcome and don't have the feeling to be on your guard all the time.
This. Maybe a bit weird but often for me these connections has been with total strangers while traveling when I was younger. Sometimes it would be with another tourist and sometimes with a local. It's surprising how deep it can get quickly.
I think this is why I love the movie "Lost in Translation", I think it perfectly captures this emotion. But I think if you haven't had that kind of experience with strangers the movie is probably lost on you.
I have not seen the movie, but I know that experience.
I think it is, because while travelling you are not bound by social expectations and boundaries. "What if I behave weird, then everyone will know in eternity".
No, you meet people and you (both) can relax, because you know you can just move on the next day and never see anyone here again. So you can let go off all that fear and anxiety .. and suddenly you can connect with ease.
That is true, but a sad conclusion. I don't believe, that there are many people who truly want to be alone all the time. Most just rather be alone, than with mean idiots, who will hurt them again.
But avoiding other people and situations to not be reminded how alone you are, will also never allow you to be in a position, where you can indeed open up and connect to the right people.
This is a really magical feeling. Being connected to people who you like, where you just feel welcome and don't have the feeling to be on your guard all the time. There is a reason many people are obsessed with party and drugs as this will get them this feeling temporarily. But I want that feeling everyday and without drugs. But the daily grind makes it an exception.