I used to have this attitude and regret losing good friends over it. It’s too easy to be independent these days, and, if you’re naturally introverted like me, too easy to neglect friendships due to self-reliance. I’m gradually learning to reach out to friends for no other purpose than spending time together, and it’s broadened my horizons. I think modern life is by default too isolating to allow most relationships to build themselves like this. You don’t have to hug people, but reaching out for non-transactional contact is rewarding IME.
To be fair, I didn't say you have to have a good common cause. Just something to do in some capacity.
Like, you don't need help, it's fun to hang out and it's an excuse to get help.
My point is to say the relationships are different rather than transactional. Focused on a common cause and that sharing of it rather than relationships directly.
