Yes, you’re absolutely correct, the people arriving on the southern border seeking asylum definitely haven’t been through any kind of dehumanizing treatment along the way. Solid take.
So because five people you know weren't harmed you're saying things like family separation aren't a big deal? As stated in the links, CBP themselves admitted to splitting up over 6,000 families. Don't get me wrong, I'm not defending the wait times for marriage visas but at least those waiting aren't forcibly separated from children and kept in detention facilities.
https://www.hrw.org/news/2022/06/06/mexico-asylum-seekers-fa...
https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/press-release/2018/10/usa-...
Maybe you need to diversify your news diet? “They just ask to come in then get put on planes” is a pretty widely discredited talking point.