I think that big issue in "nerd" circles is the tendency to believe that everyone who attempts to engage in something they don't have as core hobby, is a beginner, is only dabbling in or is just checking out or purely for socializing is a poser doing something wrong.
So, they avoid trying to engage in other activities and treat newbies with suspicion. Outside of "nerd" circles, it is normal to engage in activities for social reasons only.
> I mean, how is it that so many teenagers become obsessed with the same music their friends do?
Their friends recommend them music and they check it out. They recommend music to friends. They engage with music friends like unless they absolutely hate it. Algorithms show them similar music too.
They go to concerts of artists they know nothing about, just to be there with friends.
> engage in something they don't have as core hobby, is a beginner, is only dabbling in or is just checking out or purely for socializing is a poser doing something wrong.
Have those people forgotten that for literally everything they do now, they started as a clueless newbie just checking it out?
So, they avoid trying to engage in other activities and treat newbies with suspicion. Outside of "nerd" circles, it is normal to engage in activities for social reasons only.
> I mean, how is it that so many teenagers become obsessed with the same music their friends do?
Their friends recommend them music and they check it out. They recommend music to friends. They engage with music friends like unless they absolutely hate it. Algorithms show them similar music too.
They go to concerts of artists they know nothing about, just to be there with friends.