Because you will eventually have to work with these people and their problems will become your problems, especially if you are seen by management as someone who can fix those issues. Young adults tend to group together and cling to co-workers because they haven't learned to cope with life independently of the situation they find themselves in. I generally like my co-workers, but I have no inclination to spend any independent time with them. It's not that I don't want to make friends at work, it's that I don't want a condition of my friendship to be tied to the workplace. If I'm not seeking that person independently now, then I'm probably not going to do it later after switching jobs.
> It's not that I don't want to make friends at work, it's that I don't want a condition of my friendship to be tied to the workplace. If I'm not seeking that person independently now, then I'm probably not going to do it later after switching jobs.
I've made friends at previous companies who I still see regularly. Not a ton, but some. I have dinner plans with one of them this coming Monday.
Because you will eventually have to work with these people and their problems will become your problems, especially if you are seen by management as someone who can fix those issues. Young adults tend to group together and cling to co-workers because they haven't learned to cope with life independently of the situation they find themselves in. I generally like my co-workers, but I have no inclination to spend any independent time with them. It's not that I don't want to make friends at work, it's that I don't want a condition of my friendship to be tied to the workplace. If I'm not seeking that person independently now, then I'm probably not going to do it later after switching jobs.