Taking into account phphphphp's sibling comment, maybe disingenuous wasn't the best word to use. What would better describe my complain would be that OP takes a non-empathetic stance on the problem, and coupled with notorious social bias against women when it comes to their reproductive rights, signals to me an argumentation made in rather bad faith, therefore "disingenuous".
Bad faith and disingenuous both (as I understand it based on the definitions) mean being deceptive or dishonest. It's basically acting like you believe a thing when you don't.
I know this is off topic, and I'm not looking to be the word police or whatever, but this is one of those things that always makes me wonder if I'm crazy and I just don't know what these words mean, or if other people don't.
If you search for these terms across hn comments, you'll find they're very very common, and they're very often used to mean "I disagree" or "you're saying a thing that I find problematic". Which is a fine thing to say, but why not use those words instead?
Or maybe I have the wrong idea and just need to learn what these words actually mean.
I think that parent is *intentionally* has framed their comment as a women vs. men problem to make it sound more dramatic, conveniently disregarding the large amount of issues women have in asserting their reproductive rights. I don't just disagree with OP, I am suspicious of the fact that they omit from their reasoning a very glaring and obvious point of view. Does that clarify for you if I'm using the word right or not?
And apologies for being snippy but I believe my comments in this thread are reasonably well written, and despite the fact that English is not my first language which might lead me to miss some subtle nuances, I made myself perfectly understandable and clarified _why_ I said what I said. It's fine if you don't agree with me, but framing the issue in terms of what other commenters say and, projecting their fallacies onto my words will not lead to a good discussion.
I didn't mean to make this a "women vs. men" problem; I meant to make it a "men" problem, and I believe it would be accepted as one, if you replaced "men" with "women".
For instance, we acknowledge women suffer more than their partners during a miscarriage or a stillborn pregnancy, but both would-be parents suffer the loss of a child. We acknowledge women are affected by rape more than men, but both genders suffer from sexual assault. In this instance, where the issue negatively impacts men more than women, an article which focuses on the issue decided to focus on the common suffering and ignore the suffering that it causes men specifically, so I wanted to reframe the discussion to focus on that, and point out that society is less interested in "men's issues".
I am not looking to go back-and-forth on reproductive rights, since it is not related to my original post, but since you mentioned it, I would like to point out that while women are "[having issues] asserting their reproductive rights", men have no reproductive rights to assert. Women are struggling to obtain or retain access to abortion, and men have no such recourse. Women are struggling to obtain access to birth control, and men have no such recourse. Women can choose to have babies that their partners might not want, and men have no such recourse. The extent of reproductive rights for men is "put on a condom and pray". The "reproductive rights" battle that women are fighting is not about equality, but about getting or staying ahead.
