Totally agreed. I just decided for my own sanity that some things just aren't worth arguing about. Obviously I have opinions on my tools, but I'm not going to force my preferences on others, or spend energy endlessly debating those preferences. Work is enough mental load as is.
In my experience, strong opinions about details tend to derail conversations, drain energy out of a group and just make things more difficult than they need to be.
At work they use a lot of tools that have better alternatives, or alternatives that I prefer, but I choose to work with what I have and just get shit done.
> I just decided for my own sanity that some things just aren't worth arguing about.
Yep, I was raised to question and then argue everything with passion. It’s a waste of time. Mostly people will say they agree just to make you stop wasting time; they won’t be convinced (even if you are right). I want all that wasted time back now that I’m older. I don’t need people to agree with me on everything, or actually hardly anything. And when it’s worth going to battle, you can in those rare cases.
I'm not a parent but that sounds like parenting on hard mode.
And I couldn't agree more - because I don't argue over every little thing, I feel like my opinions are more respected and heard when I do. (Or maybe that's just a projection of how I respond to others.)
In my experience, strong opinions about details tend to derail conversations, drain energy out of a group and just make things more difficult than they need to be.
At work they use a lot of tools that have better alternatives, or alternatives that I prefer, but I choose to work with what I have and just get shit done.