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Hey, I'm your age and just having my first child, we just weren't ready before. "The prime of your life" is still ahead of you - the next decades will be what you make of them.

Buy nice clothes, find a woman willing to settle down - this will be much easier in your home country, where you are still likely a catch. In parallel, get up to date to some programming language/tech stack. Work 6 months on these issues using the money you have, then take your new wife to USA if she wants it and get a well paid tech job.

You need to put in the work for all of these issues to get solved. Grind, improve yourself, and you will be tired and eventually happy. The goals you set - wife, kids, basic life - are easy to achieve if only you are in the right state of mind. Conversely, if you practice self-defeating thinking, they will seem impossible.



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