> It’s hard to deny the appeal of brainstorming. To be given a judgment-free space to express yourself? What a dream! And especially appealing, imagine, to the ad men of the 1940s.
This, interestingly, aligns with some advice we received as a young couple. it was advised to periodically ask the other about their ideas and dreams without either 1) telling them it wont work or 2) asking how they'll make it work. Just to explore how the other things, feels, and dreams about the future. An example would be like "I really would love to sail a boat with my children one day, i think it would be so cool to teach them skills on the ocean and show them the world. Plus theres no internet there so we can all focus on eachother, I'd love that." --> Even if the dream is impossible look what they said, they want to deeply invest and connect with you and children, they value seeing the world, and the find beauty in it, etc.
probably works for some couples better than others, for I am willing to bet that most people care significantly more about their own dreams and their children than that of their partners.
This, interestingly, aligns with some advice we received as a young couple. it was advised to periodically ask the other about their ideas and dreams without either 1) telling them it wont work or 2) asking how they'll make it work. Just to explore how the other things, feels, and dreams about the future. An example would be like "I really would love to sail a boat with my children one day, i think it would be so cool to teach them skills on the ocean and show them the world. Plus theres no internet there so we can all focus on eachother, I'd love that." --> Even if the dream is impossible look what they said, they want to deeply invest and connect with you and children, they value seeing the world, and the find beauty in it, etc.