I have 6 kids, 7 is on the way. I have changed jobs when my wife is pregnant. If you have no parental bonding leave, it's not big deal. I had no leave with my 1st 5 kids and 2 weeks with my 6th. My current company has 6 weeks, so I'm incentivized to stick around. They treat me pretty well overall.

Find something you like and keep at it, since 2001, I've gone from: helpdesk > pc /network tech > network admin > system admin (windows) > system admin (linux) > sr. sysadmin (linux).

Unfortunately I've never had a decent raise without changing jobs.