Pronunciation is in fact a different thing than changing a name. If someone mispronounces my name, it doesn't mean they've given me a new name. And people that want to pronounce it coq still can.
Like how the correct pronunciation of LaTeX is "lay-tech", while obviously a lot of people pronounce it "latex".
If someone decided to start intentionally pronouncing my name wrong from now on because they don’t like how it really sounds, I’d certainly feel like they were changing my name.
Likewise for just changing the sound to “coke.” It’s a decision that the real sound sounds bad, with a suggestion to change it to a different sound. Same problem, same solution.
If the maintainers decide to change the sound or the spelling, I’ll call it whatever they want. And I’ll be more comfortable presenting it at work if it doesn’t sound like I’m saying cock.
People (usually by their native language) can't all hear and pronounce all sounds equally well.
If you can't reliably pronounce my name and it'll sound like a bad word when you try, then you should say what you can say safely. I don't care enough that I want you nervous or slowing down a meeting. But if you expect me to change my name to what you could say I would not.
You trying your best is okay, you requiring me to lower the bar so you can succeed is not okay.
