Yeah its a vicious cycle, many people how have encountered a narcissist can spot another one easily. If experienced, usually they will seek to distance themselves from that person. Usually the discussion goes something like: "oh he's the kind of person to do x" or "she's said y can you believe it? why are people like that?"
The person has little clue they are pretty different and wonder why it is so hard to make friends or get close to anyone. An acquaintance of mine once lamented about how she never was able to keep close friends for more than 2 years, I kinda knew why but I wasn't in the position to tell her how selfish/narcissistic she can be.
The thing is, people who avoid narcissists, have their justifications for doing so, no one wants to be in a one sided friendship/relationship. They aren't making excuses to treat them poorly because they don't like that person, they've seen the person take and be selfish without giving and it drains them and they distance themselves as a result.
The person has little clue they are pretty different and wonder why it is so hard to make friends or get close to anyone. An acquaintance of mine once lamented about how she never was able to keep close friends for more than 2 years, I kinda knew why but I wasn't in the position to tell her how selfish/narcissistic she can be.
The thing is, people who avoid narcissists, have their justifications for doing so, no one wants to be in a one sided friendship/relationship. They aren't making excuses to treat them poorly because they don't like that person, they've seen the person take and be selfish without giving and it drains them and they distance themselves as a result.