I'm wrapping up my first close reading -- and attempts to incorporate the guidance of -- "7 Habits of Highly Effective People", and it's been a profound experience. It outlines a linear progression of maturity (dependent -> independent -> interdependent) and provides a framework for changing how you relate to the rest of the world. It begins with deep examination of your character and values. Your self-awareness ("I'm narcissistic") and desire to change make me think you might benefit from 7H like I have.