In your example, I read it as the other members of the team not being quite as enlightened as she is, because they 'mistrust' instead of recognizing her soft leadership. It sounds like you believe she bears responsibility for that. I disagree. Accountability is different, and people like you're describing are still accountable. I take risks occasionally which are against the consensus and implicate the whole team. There's zero chance I wouldn't be held extremely accountable if it didn't pan out, and that is as it should be.