Not sure this would focus much on the OP's favorite features but this sounds like the same software (starts around 11:20):

https://archive.org/details/VirtualM

This program looks at several early examples of virtul meeting technology. Demonstrations include Cross Ties for Workgroups

Much better luck searching for the software company: https://www.google.com/#q=crossties+software+corp

Buy Crossties today for $55: http://www.amzn.com/dp/B000LUXSH6

An expired patent, cited 26 times: http://www.patentbuddy.com/Patent/5787440