your relationships? the difference you make to other people's lives? how kind, funny, generous, intelligent you are?

Relationships? Rather transient ..

Difference you make? Part of your work ..

"Kind, funny, generous, intelligent" are all nice to have, but not enough to get the amount of respect from other people that can satisfy your self esteem .. (at least for me)

Discipline, self control, vision, direction .. all seem more important to me.

seconded