What does squirreling it away mean though? A pile of cash instead of investments? The reality is that you don’t get to throw in the towel.

SPY/VOO/land with a river for the van. Probably working at the local Shell or 7-11

I’m glad that someone has built this and made it their personal crusade, but this is a problem that I can’t relate to having. I find it far more uncomfortable/intimate to sleep next to someone (even if in separate beds) than to shower or use the toilet in front off someone. Snoring, farting, dream talking, morning erections, etc.

Somehow I seem to be in the minority with this opinion. But if we’re sharing a room we’re probably pretty comfortable with each other.

Can you show off your toilet fetish on a more appropriate forum please

I’ve actually ended otherwise decent relationships early because the other person was way too coy/upset with bodily functions like farting and pooping. If we’er sleeping together I expect us to be farting together. And if we are living together I expect us to be using the toilet in front of each other. Anything less is both inconvenient and reflective of deep personality conflicts that will never be resolved.

Sounds like there's going to be someone around who's bound to be the source of deep personality conflicts all right.

I have never in my life imagined that someone might break up with another person for the sole reason that the person refused to poop in front of them. That is honestly wild to me, but I appreciate your perspective, thanks for sharing.

Been married twenty years and haven't seen my wife poop yet. Not really on my list.

Similarly, married ten years and my wife and I have never seen each other use the bathroom. And barring dire emergencies I can't actually envision, we never will.

It's stories like these (and poor parenting I guess) that causes things like my cousin standing up to wipe for close to 30 years until his gf filled him in one day.

My college roommate told me I was doing it wrong by not standing up to wipe. I just rolled my eyes, that guy had a lot of weird things going on.

The first tier ($4/month) only works for up to 25 aliases. Depending on how many of your aliases have leaked, you may have to pay a lot to perform that check.

I wish HIBP had a solution for those of us who are individuals but use domain catchall forwarding as our method for separating accounts.

It feels good to see adobe@mydomain.com, newrelic@mydomain.com, internetarchive@mydomain.com, etc. there but not any of the addresses I use for normal communication.

Agree completely. I got ownership of my domain before he started charging, but looking now there's only a summary and it lists 45 email addresses in breaches, which means I need to pay a substantial amount to get a report, and I'm the only user of the domain for email.

I wish there was a "I'm just one person, or a small family" tier for this.

If you use this approach, once 10 of your aliases are in the HIBP database you will need to pay for a subscription to see breaches for your domain (and even then the $40/year tier is only good for 25 aliases).

I wish HIBP had a solution for those of us who are individuals but use a domain catchall to manage online accounts.

Yes it really does suck - apparently I've been breached numerous times but I can't see details without paying.

> the senior cowboy coder (who just went into retirement)

They just went into retirement?

I've seen coworkers at Big Tech Co™ make huge security blunders despite attending prestigious universities (Berkeley, Stanford, etc) and having 5+ years of industry experience. No LLM slop required. Just rushing to meet deadlines while requirements shift rapidly enough that details get overlooked.

What software are you using for virtualization? I wasn't impressed with the Apple Silicon options last time I looked.

Yup it's wild to me how much anxiety there is about cameras while no mind is given to microphones. Conversations are much more privileged than potentially seeing me in my underwear.

That said the most sensitive information is what we already willingly transmit: search queries, interactions, etc. We feed these systems with so much data that they arguably learn things about us that we're not even consciously aware of.

Covering your camera with tape seems like a totally backwards assessment of privacy risk.

I’m just going to assume you’re a man, and don’t generally worry about things like revenge porn. Because that is a bigger concern to me than you, it seems. Sure, I don’t want my sound to be recorded either, but that’s why I put a cover on the webcam AND turn off the physical switch on my (external) microphone. They are both easy things to do.

> Conversations are much more privileged than potentially seeing me in my underwear.

Depends on how you look in underwear.

> Yup it's wild to me how much anxiety there is about cameras while no mind is given to microphones. Conversations are much more privileged than potentially seeing me in my underwear.

It depends on the person, I don't think you could gain much from me? I don't say credit card numbers out loud, I don't talk about hypothetical crimes out loud. I don't say my wallet seed phrases out loud. I also don't type in my passwords. Yes you could probably find out what restaurant I'm ordering delivery for, but other than that I suppose my conversations are really boring.

The cost of feeding your entire years speech to an LLM will be $0.5/person. I'm sure summarized and searchable your conversation will be very very valuable.