So you admit you had support. What about the people who don't?

As someone with lots of weird quirks, and who is very likely on the autism spectrum, working from home may have literally saved my career.

Isn't it long term doing more harm?

By no means I am on autism spectrum but interacting with people or having to deal with strangers takes my energy away.

Staying at home is nice - but then I build up so much social anxiety that when I really have to go out and do something with people it is just awful.

Putting myself out there for "training" helps so my issues don't build up.

> Putting myself out there for "training" helps so my issues don't build up.

That is a good point and probably a nice argument for venturing outside of one's zone of comfort occasionally.

That said, what about people whose quirks make others reflect negatively upon them? Something like ticks that make other people uncomfortable (had a person occasionally grunt loudly at the office, really distracting), yet wouldn't really make their actual work performance any worse? If those ticks are involuntary, sometimes they might prefer to partake in remote work.

Moreso, what about people who are anxious, agoraphobic or have avoidant personality disorder, or something like it? People who might socialize in a limited set of circumstances, but might have to deal with panic attacks or undue stress in larger meetings or other types of social situations? Dealing with all of that due to no alternatives might be pretty debilitating and demotivating and might not be something "solvable" (at least in the short term), yet the person still should be able to make money so they can survive.

Of course, I cannot make claims for others, but personally it's nice that we can accommodate various types of people and their preferences, as long as they actually get things done at no significant expense to anyone else.

To clarify, I do not have a general answer for everyone I described my own feelings/approach from last 2 years.

That was my question to parent poster if he considered that "always remote" might fix some issue right now so he could keep his job - but what about working to handle quirks/anxiety so in the future if he really needs to switch jobs putting himself out there with people might help.

what would you say is big bucks?

A surgeon friend of mine gets $1000 per day that he's not working but on-call.

And what does it go to if he gets called in?

I don’t know but it’s a hell of a lot more than anything I make.

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We don't really have it good though, simply because the universe doesn't work like that. There's no such thing as a free lunch and you're paying a price for all this "goodness".

The difference is: you can understand a drunk driver, you can arrest them, and possibly feel some sense of "closure".

What are you gonna do when a car goes rogue and murders somebody?

When a drunk driver causes an accident, you can arrest them and keep them from driving anymore, but this doesn't stop anyone else from driving drunk. With self-driving cars, you fix the bug that caused the accident and deploy it to the whole fleet, so none of them will ever make the same mistake again.

That's a new one to me. You're arguing that we can't allow autonomous systems in our society because when they have bugs that cause problems... there isn't a moral actor who we can punish?

Do you feel the same way about your gas furnace or the autopilot of the last airliner you flew on?

That's not where health is though...

Health is balance.

Leaving home at 18 is really mostly an american thing.

Go to a place like Italy or India or Pakistan and you'll find 30+ year olds living with their parents and it's no big deal at all.

At least in South Asia they are also at that point working and in many cases supporting their parents.

30+ year olds are working. In rural areas working in farms with their parents. In urban areas employed in some other job.

It's true that we are supported until we finish education, however. Which I think is a good thing.

29 here, living at home. I do have somewhat of a career though.

I Honestly don't know when I'll leave. I have the skills to live alone, but my self-esteem is so low and my social life so limited that it gets really scary to leave.