We cant stop! Modern civilization isnt designed that way. The griever stops but the whole team doesn't. The flipside is we have less death than the middle ages because of the technology we have created. Nonetheless no one is immortal. Death is part of the game, without it life would not be possible. (A universe where life is immortal would not have sufficient antifragility to have the evolutionary pressures to make human experience)
On the other hand, what is the reasonable way of action here? A whole set of acquaintances grieving for days about a person only one of them knew? Next to this being quite detrimental to productivity (and you can argue all day about how bad we have it in this society), it would just lead to us being in a mostly permanent state of grieve, as there will always be someone that had some shocking event in recent times, for any reasonably large set of people.
I dont fully understand this but it seems fucked. It sounds like a real job with all the real job issues and none of the pay. Actually antipay as it is an expensive hobby ... might as well snowboard.
Edit: some of that team seem sponsored so maybe I am wrong?
Real job in terms of stress rather than time. 5h hacking on your.own thing != 5h contriburing to a big repo and doing something called "incident response"
Yeah, I understand what you mean. I guess I'd define "real job" as "Trade your time for my/our money", and if you're not getting paid (now or in the future), you're in one way or another "volunteering", no matter how stressful it is, what area the work involves, or the size of the thing you're contributing to.
