I think women are also awful to one another. I have seen it myself. Granted. Men are terrible. Women are often far nastier and more indirect which can wreak complete havoc in a workplace or remote work environment.
I know many women who have a very weird instinct to compete against the other women in their environment which is not exactly the same as how men compete. And the WAY women compete is NASTY.
I have met a lot of women who have said they greatly prefer to work with men over women and that some women have extremely aggressive instincts towards other women.
It’s something evolutionary along the lines of: “If there are few women and many men (typical in most tech environments), you are competing not only for male attention and prestige but it is also a zero sum game based on appearance so another woman is threatening across multiple attack vectors … if she is more attractive, the men will give her more resources. If she is more talented, she will get more attention etc.
I think it reminds me of Chinese dynasty politics where an emperor who has many wives - They all understand that it is a zero sum game and the children of the woman who gets the most attention will have the most resources. Go read about how Chinese imperial concubines handled one another. It was very, very, very bad.
It is incredibly sexist to talk about. But the effect is real. Humans have hormones. They don’t go away because we have been in an office for 50 years out of the last million years.
I personally think that the chemistry between men and women can be magical for work and create super productivity. I prefer to work with and for women. It’s because if I work with men everything becomes a sort of dominance contest and I personally don’t care for it.
I think women are going to have to get honest with themselves about this. My wife is a nurse who works with all women and the stuff they do to each other is downright evil. They basically try and sabotage each others relationships. My wife constantly bemoans this fact.
Men are not perfect. Women aren’t either. As genders we have different ways of being awful and a good mix of both genders is likely a good way to balance this out.
Nursing, esp. in subfields where people are regularly dying, is a different world.
12-hour shifts, sometimes very physically demanding, often highly stressful, and even when not stressful, often gross: cleaning up blood, puss, shit, etc. I've heard stories, both online as well as from medical folks I know, about the smells.
Small, single errors mean someone could die, and often from something as silly as writing down blood sugar levels incorrectly or with hard-to-read handwriting. CYA is SOP.
Barriers of entry are often low, and turnover + demand means that you're forced to make due with the staff you have not the staff you want -- which means Stacy the Room-Temperature-IQ Superstar now has more nursing duties than should be allowed.
I know many women who have a very weird instinct to compete against the other women in their environment which is not exactly the same as how men compete. And the WAY women compete is NASTY.
I have met a lot of women who have said they greatly prefer to work with men over women and that some women have extremely aggressive instincts towards other women.
It’s something evolutionary along the lines of: “If there are few women and many men (typical in most tech environments), you are competing not only for male attention and prestige but it is also a zero sum game based on appearance so another woman is threatening across multiple attack vectors … if she is more attractive, the men will give her more resources. If she is more talented, she will get more attention etc.
I think it reminds me of Chinese dynasty politics where an emperor who has many wives - They all understand that it is a zero sum game and the children of the woman who gets the most attention will have the most resources. Go read about how Chinese imperial concubines handled one another. It was very, very, very bad.
It is incredibly sexist to talk about. But the effect is real. Humans have hormones. They don’t go away because we have been in an office for 50 years out of the last million years.
I personally think that the chemistry between men and women can be magical for work and create super productivity. I prefer to work with and for women. It’s because if I work with men everything becomes a sort of dominance contest and I personally don’t care for it.